It
was not pleasant to watch some of the odd video clips on tv channels and social
media showing cross-firing and heated arguments among men and women which
looked to be insulting for both sides equally. It showed lack of patience and
attempts to get cheap publicity from both sides.
It
is unfortunate to note that both sides do not have plausible arguments and I
noticed a predominant element of disrespect rather than a sense of respect.
Let
me clear this fact; no religion in this world allows men or women to disrespect
each other. God created both man and woman as his best creation and made us the
‘Asharf ul Muklookaat’. Do we ever wonder why? It is because God gave us the sense
to differentiate between good and bad.
He
has also given us the sense to feel whether you are being loved or hated? We
are very sensitive to hate or disrespect, because it hurts our sense of self-respect
and hence, we react and the reaction determines the level of disrespect. Please
think deeply and see even the sense to feel respect and disrespect is created
by Allah as part of a consistent feature to keep our sense of pride intact. In
fact, it is the sense of respect which makes you look different.
This
sense of respect is not restricted to males only but females also inherit the
same sense and both are blessed with sense to achieve it.
Respect
makes the real difference between wife and husband, father and son, mother and
daughter, hence the “sense of respect” is the main bond which keep these
important relationships tied together. Even among the worldly relations, the
bond between an employer and employee, a male and female or even between a teacher
and a student, all are largely dependent on sense and level of respect.
World
history is a witness to the fact that females are always treated as inferior
which was unfair but modern history is treating the woman of today differently.
Having
said so let us confess that while women are physically weaker as compared to
men, but does it mean that men are now entitled to treat them badly or take
their rights and force their wishes on them? No, not at all. Women are
justified in demanding an end to the discrimination.
Let
me raise a point here that women might be physically weaker than men but
mentally and emotionally, they are much stronger than men that’s why they are
known as the architects of our society – hence the adage “heaven is under the
feet of a mother”.
Let
us throw some light on the rights of women which Islam have given to them. A
woman has a right to take “Khulla” if she decides to not live with her man and
this is the power which no one can take away from her - not even the
court/Qazi. Why? Because this veto power has been given to her by her Allah to
feel protected.
If
my Allah protects women then who is man to defy what Allah has decided, that we
show love, affection and care for women.
Disrespecting
a woman is not an option in any religion hence always respecting woman is the
only option. In my personal view, women should not be humiliated or insulted on
media or otherwise. She is your mother, she is your sister and she is your
daughter and therefore she deserves your love and respect keeping the relevancies
of your relationship accordingly.
It
is none of anyone’s business if a woman in divorced and decides to remarry as
it is no crime because our religion itself has permitted them to do so. That is
the power given to both men and women to terminate the relationship if the
sense of respect is missing.
In
light of the above facts, if you think whether a woman should march for her
rights or not, I ask why not? I say that let our women march for their respect
and their honour -let them demand for their empowerment and equal rights in
governance. Let them ask for stringent laws to save them from rape and domestic
violence. Let them march to save the Zainabs of my country. I stand with you
all.
In
the end I have a piece of advice that abusing woman or man to be treated as
crime and should be punishable for one year and lifetime ban on an appearance on
electronic media.
I
think we need to have such strict actions to reform our society and to create sense
of respect for each other.
Let
us not be un-Islamic in our approaches towards life and let us be enlightened
by following the will of God.
All
my dear women elite please march for your rights and I standby you in my humble
capacity. Good luck to you for this noble cause!
The article was published in The Nation on March 08, 2020, link to the article is https://nation.com.pk/08-Mar-2020/man-and-woman-march-for-mutual-respect
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